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Divorce Rates Higher in States with Gay Marriage Bans
by Nate Silver

Over the past decade or so, divorce has gradually become more uncommon in the United States. Since 2003, however, the decline in divorce rates has been largely confined to states which have not passed a state constitutional ban on gay marriage. These states saw their divorce rates decrease by an average of 8 percent between 2003 and 2008. States which had passed a same-sex marriage ban as of January 1, 2008, however, saw their divorce rates rise by about 1 percent over the same period….READ MORE

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Why I’m Voting No on 1 and Why I Would Even if I Were Still a Devout Christian

This past year, Maine passed a law allowing homosexuals to marry (each other.) So, of course, there’s a measure on this November’s ballot asking whether or not we, as Mainers, want to keep this law on the books.

Once again, U.S. citizens are being given the power to take away another U.S. citizen’s rights. Not Deny – TAKE AWAY a right they already have – a right that all non-gays have enjoyed since before the beginning of this country. It’s enough to make me sick.

I used to be a Christian. I went to church, attended my college’s Church of Christ student center. I met some wonderful people there, read and studied the Bible and tried to be the best Christian I knew how.

While I was in the Church I no doubt frustrated many of my fellow church goers. I never understood why we, as Christians, had to stick our noses into the business of the general public. I always saw this meddling as attempts at Mass conversion which is a futile gesture. Conversion should be a personal journey and should never be mandated by law.

Therefore, babysitting the country at large isn’t only futile, it’s simply stupid. Forcing your own particular beliefs on someone who is unwilling to listen is not going to convert them – it’s only going to breed resentment and make witnessing even more difficult.

There was a time when I thought homosexuality was a sin. My best friend was gay and I worried for his soul until it almost drove me nuts. But never, not once, did I want to deny him any legal rights. My concern for him was a personal one. I didn’t want anyone to be gay but I felt it wasn’t my place to tell anyone outside of the Church what they should do. If that person wanted to be a Christian then and only then would I say anything to them about their lifestyle – that was the only time I felt I really had any right to do so.

The church I was attending desperately wanted to legislate from the pulpit. The elders encouraged us to witness with our vote – to try to force our morals on others with legislation. This was one of the things that drove me from the Church. (I stopped attending church well before I ‘lost’ my faith.)

I love and respect the principles on which the U.S. Constitution and Bill of Rights were based and knew that to worship as I wanted, those principles had to be upheld. It was very painful to me that so many of my brothers and sisters in Christ refused to understand this. One of my friends had the audacity to tell me that the first amendment said ‘Freedom OF Religion’ no ‘Freedom FROM Religion.’ The fact that he couldn’t – or wouldn’t – grasp that ‘Freedom of Religion’ meant both was astounding to me.

Without the freedom that the Constitution grants us there would be no way for a church to truly grow. Nothing as transcendent as religion can be forced upon a person and be truly respected.

Separation of Church and State is not an evil thing – it protects everyone, including the churches. If you can’t see that then maybe it’s time to realize there’s a world out there past your church building’s fellowship hall. What if your beliefs aren’t the ones chosen to mix into the state? I doubt my Church of Christ friends would appreciate being told that their children would have to start every school day with a catholic prayer.

Living in the United States is truly a gift; one I know that many believe is from God. But living here means you have to acknowledge and deal with the fact that there are people in this country that do not agree with you and never will. These people have just as much right to live the life they want as any other group that doesn’t constitute a physical threat.

I suppose many Christians would argue that if gays are allowed to marry that THEIR rights would be violated, but that is something I have never understood. Who does or does not marry has no effect on your relationships. If it does then there’s something wrong with you, not a pair of strangers who happened to fall in love.

And that’s why I’m voting to make sure that those different from me have the same rights that I do – and that I would vote this way even if I were still attending church. This is a free country and everyone should have the same rights as others despite differing opinions, mindsets and even intelligence.

For those of you planning to vote Yes on 1 or on any issue that’s even remotely related because you feel something ‘just isn’t right’ maybe you should stop and consider that there might be something that you do that others feel ‘just isn’t right.’ Life may not be innately fair but it’s our duty as Americans to try to make it as fair as it possibly can be for everyone.

We live in a Republic, NOT a Democracy

The United States of America has a Republican government, not a Democratic government. And no, I’m not talking about political parties here.

I don’t have my notes handy but I remember learning in school that a Republic is a form of government where the majority rules but that the rights of the minority must always be protected. In contrast, a true Democracy is a form of government where the majority rules, period, and anyone who disagrees with that majority – well, they’re out of luck.

True Democracy would not be a good form of government. I know there are many out there who disagree but look at it like this: The majority of this country prefers chocolate to strawberry flavored ice cream. What if your favorite flavor was strawberry and it was banned because the majority preferred chocolate? How would that be fair? Your preference to strawberry is hurting no one and there’s no real reason that it should be banned.

So, we come to Civil Rights. Fifty years ago, the majority of this country believed that black people shouldn’t have the same rights that whites have. However, this was an infringement on the rights of a minority and despite the will of the people those rights had to be protected.

We’re going through this again today with yet another minority group and I’m sure you know who I’m talking about, unless you live in ignorance. In case you do, that group is homosexuals.

Several states passed anti-gay marriage laws this past Election Day, the most appalling being California. Why is California guiltier than the others? Because they didn’t just vote to deny rights, they voted to take away rights that those people had already been given.

Does that really sink in? Americans voted to take away rights. We’re supposed to be the land of the free and we’re taking away rights from individual citizens of this country – rights that hurt no one.

What was that? The sanctity of marriage? Give me a frikkin’ break. If voters are so damned worried about the sanctity of marriage, why aren’t they trying to ban divorce? It has nothing to do with sanctity. It comes down to what it always comes down to – pure and unadulterated bigotry, hatred and ignorance.

Gay marriage isn’t going to hurt the institution of marriage – the vows traded by straight couples won’t mean any less, the bond people those people will still be as strong and their love for each other can not be diminished just because a pair of homosexuals are getting married at the same time.

I know that my little rant here is a waste – it will change no one’s mind either way. Hateful, ignorant bigots tend to want to stay that way and I can’t figure out why what I would normally consider a compassionate Christian can’t just let others live their lives. I couldn’t understand that when I was in the church so I certainly can’t understand it now.

My only hope is that the court will recognize that the will of the people really has no place here. This is a rights issue and it’s not lawful for the majority to deny rights to a minority.

12 Reasons Why Gay Marriage Should Not be Legal (Satire Alert!)


1. Homosexuality is not natural, much like eyeglasses, polyester, and birth control are not natural.

2. Heterosexual marriages are valid because they produce children. Infertile couples and old people cannot get legally married because the world needs more children.

3. Obviously gay parents will raise gay children because straight parents only raise straight children.

4. Straight marriage will be less meaningful, since Britney Spears’s 55-hour just-for-fun marriage was meaningful.

5. Heterosexual marriage has been around for a long time, and it hasn’t changed at all: women are property, Blacks can’t marry Whites, and divorce is illegal.

6. Gay marriage should be decided by the people, not the courts, because the majority-elected legislatures, not courts, have historically protected the rights of minorities.

7. Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are always imposed on the entire country. That’s why we only have one religion in America.

8. Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people makes you tall.

9. Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage license.

10. Children can never succeed without both male and female role models at home. That’s why single parents are forbidden to raise children.

11. Gay marriage will change the foundation of society. Heterosexual marriage has been around for a long time, and we could never adapt to new social norms because we haven’t adapted to cars or longer lifespans.

12. Civil unions, providing most of the same benefits as marriage with a different name are better, because a “separate but equal” institution is always constitutional. Separate schools for African-Americans worked just as well as separate marriages will for gays & lesbians.